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I think the best way to avoid pettiness is to think high energy thoughts and rid yourself of low energy. Read a book about high energy such as The Power of Intention by Wayne Dyer or watch the movie The Secret.
The best way to grow away from pettiness is to regularly ponder times youve behaved in a way you werent thrilled about in hindsight. If you dont dissect yourself in this way you will never see alternate ways of responding.
When you arent being petty you have more energy to focus on what is actually important in life. Become a big thinker dont dwell on the little stuff. When something peeves you off, list what the positives about the situation are. Choose a different way to think about it.
The situations we find ourselves in are good or bad as defined by us. It is OUR THOUGHTS that give events in our life meaning. We can choose to change them at anytime to something that serves us better. For example if you decide that your friend not calling you means you are not important to them or they think they are too good for you it is bad.
Alternatively you could choose to think gosh they must be really busy at the moment which is positive and not dragging you down. Anytime you think such a negative thought ask yourself how can I be absolutely sure of that? chances are you cant. And so begins a new way of thinking.
Anytime a negative meaning you create pops to your head, ponder the opposite and then take that on as your view on the situation. It will eventually come naturally.
So many times the meanings we give to things are way off the mark
Finding a receipt from an alternative shop means your teen has been buying herbal highs. No it was a bracelet.
Your daughter is an hour late for curfew she must be drunk and comatose in a gutter somewhere. No they got a flat tyre.
Your favourite vase is smashed on the floor your son was smashing the basketball around inside carelessly again no he was bolting to catch your 3 year old who decided it was high time they jumped off the stereo speakers.
If you know in what areas youve been petty in the past you can watch for triggers to ensure it doesnt happen again. It might be in certain relationships, certain work situations or arguing over a trolley with a stranger at the supermarket. Having a strong and wonderful self esteem is very important, but you should balance self honesty about what you can improve on. If you dont recognise your flaws you cant fix them.
